Had a bit of an internet argument with someone who was genuinely saying EU cookie laws were a problem because they impose technical and legal hurdles on covertly gathering user data. As opposed to, you know, just not doing that.

But the thing standing out was that their way of conducting themselves was this chest thumping repetition of a position in lieu of any argument.

That reminds me of a time in my younger years when I observed that people behaving like that get heard, so I thought maybe..


... I ought to emulate that behaviour. And I did for a bit, and may occasionally still slip into it.

Which turns this into a reminder to myself and anyone else that, no, let's not be like that. It's frustrating when this kind of behaviour gets attention, but the solution isn't to follow suit.

You can apply Mark Twain's rule, to "never argue with an idiot. They will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience."

They're not really idiots, but the rest applies well enough.

@jens I grok that.

My father got angry if someone disagreed with him, so my family were in the habit of not arguing. Which did avoid all the trauma of flaming rows, but also meant I internalised the idea that if you got angry people did what you wanted.

I realised it wasn't a positive method of achieving goals decades ago, but if I encounter a problem that isn't succumbing to debate I still feel fury bubbling up.

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